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As my friend Lindsey, married and in her thirties, recently remarked, “I’m sure glad I wasn’t much of a Christian when I started dating my husband!” Whether over coffee in my kitchen or on the hallowed ground of women’s small groups, I hear these murmurs constantly.Much of the discussion around singleness is, "Just have enough faith, and God will provide a spouse." And we started to worry about what that says ...God is not absent-minded, He didn’t forget about you. I know it’s hard to believe but ask your married friends. In my 20’s I thought everyone probably liked what I liked.The young woman knows first hand what its like to force something and someone to work.
Frustrated by several churches where marriage and family life were framed as spiritually optimal, both women turned to each other and to other singles for constructive ways to interpret their singleness beyond, "Just hold on, he [or she] will come along soon." Thankfully, the book borne of Colón and Field's experience does more than vent.This involves judging a potential guy or girl for the 38 qualities you are looking for in an ideal mate—before even grabbing coffee together. Sometimes the “hanging out” leads to hooking up, sans dating, which is another uber-confusing side effect of the Faux Christian Dating cycle. What if Christians just began to date like normal people—not dating toward immediate marriage and not eschewing dating for the less-desirable “hanging out” no man’s land?It’s like arranged marriages where no one is making the arrangements, and it doesn’t seem to work very well. Here’s what I think it would require: Stop evaluating whether the guy who’s taken an interest in you is strong and tenderhearted enough to raise your future kids.The funny tales and difficult moments that she touches upon, jump out of almost every single page.
To hear more about how to become a successful dater, Faithwire spoke one-on-one with Mc Kenzie about questions that have routinely popped up in many single Christian women’s heads.Not all single women feel insecure about being single.